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Navigating Custody with Care and Flexibility
At Burrows Law Group, we understand the complexities families face when crafting parenting plans—especially during the holidays. When one parent lives far away or serves in the military, thoughtful planning and clear agreements are essential to ensure children enjoy meaningful time with both parents. If you’re navigating these unique circumstances, here are key considerations and tips to help create a successful holiday parenting plan.
Understanding the Challenges of Distance and Duty
Parents who are stationed overseas or live across the country face logistical and emotional challenges during the holidays. Travel restrictions, military obligations, and time zone differences all add layers of complexity. That’s why it’s crucial to plan early, communicate clearly, and document agreements that are both fair and flexible.
Create a Detailed and Custom Schedule
Texas family courts encourage parenting plans that are in the best interests of the child—but that doesn’t mean one-size-fits-all. A strong holiday parenting plan for military or long-distance parents should include:
- Specific holiday schedules (Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year’s, Spring Break, etc.)
- Pick-up/drop-off arrangements, including who handles transportation and associated costs
- Alternating year plans, so each parent gets meaningful holiday time on a rotating basis
- Make-up time clauses, in case deployment or travel limitations prevent visitation during scheduled holidays
Consider Virtual Visitation Options
If physical visitation isn’t possible during certain holidays, virtual visitation can be a lifeline. Including provisions for video calls, virtual meals, or online gift-opening sessions can help preserve the parent-child bond.
At Burrows Law Group, we often help clients include language in parenting plans that can help focus on regular virtual access and outline acceptable technology use.
Account for Military Service and Deployment
Under Texas law, military parents have special protection when it comes to custody and visitation. If deployment disrupts a parenting schedule:
- The court may allow a designated family member (such as a grandparent) to step in for visitation.
- The deployed parent can request make-up time once they return.
- It’s essential to have a military-specific clause in the parenting plan that outlines procedures for unexpected deployments.
This helps reduce conflict and ensures that both parents remain involved in the child’s life—even during service.
Prioritize the Child’s Needs and Well-Being
Holidays can be emotionally charged, especially when parents live far apart. A child-centered approach is vital. Consider:
- Travel fatigue: Avoid long travel days right before or after major holidays.
- Stability and routine: Maintain familiar traditions and environments where possible.
- Emotional preparation: Let children know the plan in advance and provide reassurance about transitions.
Courts in Denton and throughout Texas always prioritize the child’s best interest—so should your parenting plan.
Work with a Family Law Attorney in Denton
Creating or modifying a parenting plan involving military service or long-distance custody often requires legal proficiency. At Burrows Law Group, we’ve helped countless families across Denton County navigate these challenges with empathy and precision.
Whether you’re facing deployment, relocating, or simply need a more workable holiday schedule, we’re here to ensure your parenting plan serves your child’s best interests—and honors your role as a parent. Call us today at (972) 236-7798!